Feng Shui CrazyMaking My World A Better One

I read in an article that even the best feng shui master cannot calculate when you will die exactly – because according to him – these are things that the heaven disallowed.  it is quite scary isn’t it – not knowing when one is going to die.  But what if someone can and want to read your fortune and tell you that you are destined to die – on which year and time or date – or all 3?  is your destiny really held in your own hand?  or is it really heaven’s will?  i really don’t know truth be told – but i’ve heard that you can’t escape it if it comes – for me – I’m not afraid to die – I’m afraid of those I love – those I left behind after I die.   What are your thoughts?

A friend just called and told me his wife is pregnant – you see they have been trying for many years to have a baby.  I was very happy for them and also told him all about keeping his wife happy and he also asked about feng shui for his wife’s room and stretch mark cure all in the same breath.  You see the wife wants to continue to wear her bikini and go to Mexico and Cancun for their holidays with the baby when the baby arrives – and I can fully understand her concern – after all – looking good for a woman is as important as having hair on a man’s head eh.  Below is what i learned :

When pregnant, it is a woman’s home that must provide the safe haven in which to escape from the stresses of daily life and provide an avenue in which to improve overall health, boosting prenatal health and encouraging health pregnancy outcomes.  Pregnant women’s physical and emotional health may be improved with the application of simple Feng Shui techniques, e.g. the use of lucky objects, the use of color, placing the bed, to improve the overall energy and balance, thereby reducing common stress and complications associated with pregnancy and antenatal care.  So if my friend’s wife is afraid of the stretch mark – she can start looking for anti-stretch mark cream – but to make sure to check with her doctor when she can start using it and allergies and stuff.  Keeping the wife worry free is very important at this time – so if she is worried – don’t brush her worries away – make sure you attend to it.

A girlfriend once told me that she didn’t allow her spouse to buy a karaoke for the home – for fear that it may disrupt the harmony at home.  But truth be told – all musical instrument is alright – as long as you feel alright with it.  Some people feels good having a piano at home – while others feels good with a violin.  So why not the Karaoke?  is it because it’s too noisy ?  but to the spouse – it relieves his stress level and helps him enjoy his life – so that’s a good thing no?  So my solution?  if the spouse loves singing and wants the karaoke machine at home – why not dedicate a somewhat special room – with  sound proof for him and if he wants to entertain his friends – why not?   as long as he doesn’t sing his karaoke past midnight and get drunk or disturb the neighbor – don’t deprive him of his singing.

So the girlfriend wrote to me and told me that her spouse bought an LCD TV 40″ and a flat panel mount for the bedroom.  He claims that he needed it for his sports shows – he is addicted to them and cannot sleep without them.  So instead of getting screamed at for falling asleep in the basement where the recreation room currently is – he came up with this brilliant excuse to have the LCD TV in the bedroom.

The fuming girlfriend wanted it to be out of the room – and both are currently arguing what is best to do with it.   Yes ! feng shui do not encourage tvs and electronics in the bedroom – but it also doesn’t encourage bickering in one’s bedroom too.   So the best solution?  cover up the LCD TV when both of them wants a good night’s rest.  Problem solved – spouse can enjoy the tv and the girlfriend will get a good night’s rest without any bickering.  So good luck to all who have spouse’s who wants tvs and mounts in their bedroom.

So this is the continuation of the Mother In Law From Hell – from a few previous post.  So if you are staying with your in-laws and your mother-in-law rules the roost, the situation is more difficult. Here it will be you feeling that neither you nor your husband is the power in the house and it is likely that the mother-in-law here will exert a great deal of authority.

As the wife feeling stifled by the situation, the best solution is to wear a powerful amulet that will help to reduce any feelings of hostility. The rooster with amethyst and fan amulet here is excellent. Carry it with you always and you will find that any hostility between you and your mother-in-law will dissolve. You can also place two crystal balls on the table where you can both see it. This is powerful in helping to ameliorate any tension or left over anger.

Continuing from Part 1 of Mothers-in-laws from Hell – can feng shui help to make life less difficult in families with these sorts of problems?

The mother and daughter-in-law competition is an age-old phenomenon that transcends race or culture, and in the old days, this situation caused all sorts of tragedies within families. Both sides always assumed the worst of each other’s motivations and most comments and opinions of either were almost always seen in a negative light. There is rarely little love lost between the two most important women in a man’s life.

The Feng Shui SOLUTION
Those having this unhappy problem should start by first transforming their attitudes. Feng shui can help but unless there is also a reversal of expectations, it is less likely that feng shui can change much.

If your mother-in-law is staying with you remember that she is probably feeling less comfortable than you realize. Because underlying her external bravado is the thought that she is probably not very welcome, so do make an effort to really make her feel welcome.

FIRST: Light up the SW corner of your living room with a bright light and put a lovely picture of the two of you – wife and mother-in-law – smiling happily in the SW corner. Make the picture quite big so both of you can see it and be reminded of how close you are or can be! This little Taoist tip works wonders.

NEXT: Place two crystal balls on a table also in the SW corner. This creates excellent Earth energy that will cause both of you to bond really well.

The presence of grandchildren is itself the most powerful cure. The energy of children is pure and very yang and this helps dissolve conflict and disharmony. It also helps to paint a wall red if there continues to be tensions. Fire element energy is always effective for burning up feelings of hostility and tension.

But what happens if you are staying with your mother-in-law – to be cont’d – in Part 3.

The beauty of a woman lies in the eye of the beholder – I’m sure you’ve heard this before.  My mother used to complained why my uncles were so good to their wives and some were even afraid of their wives and would do all their whims and fancies without an extra word.  While none of the wives were prettier than my mom – they certainly did something right that my mom weren’t – so said my mom.  But yes – don’t you also feel sometimes – that some other girls are way luckier than you – when it comes to relationships?

What about some who are not so pretty and even have acne and desperately need acne treatment and yet – you see their b/f kissing them and holding their handbags and almost kissing the floor that they walked on?  Yes ! i’ve come across someone like that in my time too – and I’ve always wondered myself – how can someone who has full of acne – have such a macho looking boyfriend?  is it fate? or what kinda spell was she using – hahah!

You know in Feng Shui – we also believed in your “life” – meaning that everyone has a life meant for them.  Some people’s face features – shows that they will always have a good life – while others – are just different.  Some have their husbands to love and some are meant to marry a few times – before they find Mr Right.  Can one change one’s  “life” ?  I heard not – but I was told by doing good deeds – your life – will be better.

Decades of studies, academic as well as social, interviewing hundreds of families have revealed that nearly two-thirds of women complain they’ve suffered long-term stress arising from friction with their husband’s mother. In turn, an equal number of mothers-in-law complained bitterly about their exclusion from their son’s lives and from their grandchildren.

Most of the time, mother-in-law conflicts do not flare out in the open but scratch beneath the surface and both sides – the young wife as well as the older woman – are more than happy to air their grievances. It usually does not take much for long list of complaints to come pouring forth.

And no matter how devoted the husbands may claim to be, or how much they declare their love for the wife, if they should be so foolish as to take the side of the mother just once, it can be a catalyst for problems to start in the marriage.

Wives tend to see mothers-in-law as their rivals. Mothers tend to more patient with their sons; laughing loudest at his jokes, sympathizing with his problems and listening adoringly to the dullest details of his day. Mothers will always be more patient than wives – always know more about his favourite foods, his weakness for certain types of music, movies and just about everything else. After all, mothers have a head start over wives. They are even privy to their son’s tastes in women!

In the face of this sort of mother-son intimacy, it is easy for the wife to get insanely jealous. Modern day wives will never admit to this. How can the mother-in-law be a rival? Recent studies show however that for millions of women, the wedding ring is barely done before wives start to feel in deadly competition with their husband’s mother. And these days, when mothers-in-law are capable, resourceful, independent achieving women as well, it is not difficult to see how this can quite easily ignite into something that can cause great unhappiness.

More on Mother-in-laws from hell – and how to feng shui it in another post.

My grandmother used to say – “people would first look at your from the outside – and then you”  – and how true it is. A radiant face can attract good fortune – can get you the right job – can get you a mentor – so you get the picture right?  yes!  you don’t need to be a super model to attract good fortune – but a radiant you will.  And how does one get a radiant you?  I’ve been asked a lot of questions like how to get rid of acne to get a radiant face?  how to look healthy?  how to show that you are happy ?  how to have a happy face?

Although having acne on your face is not your fault – and it’s wrong to hold it against a person and give the job to another non- acne face person – I’ve heard many a times – how you feel that’s the reason why you didn’t get a promotion or that job you want.  I hear yer! and I know how that feels.  So yes! if you have acne – or a bad hair color – you really need to do something about it.  Feng shui is no magic – if it is a practical problem – look for practical solution and yes having a radiant you – radiant personality – good breathe hygiene – all these contribute to a successful you.

A friend of mine who have been in a long term relationship wants to spice up her relationship for fear of losing interest of her partner.   She had asked me if there was a way – to enhance her relationship without making way too many changes.  But you see – like i tell everyone – feng shui is no magic – one have to work on your relationship in order to make it work.  So instead i asked her to spice up her wardrobe maybe?   with some sexy costumes for home – when they are together – something different – something interesting.   Plus Halloween is coming – so even if the partner and her throw a Halloween party and she wear a witch costume – now that would spice up the relationship right?  Don’t be so predictable i told her – if she wants her relationship to be taken to another level – have fun.  Feng shui can help in a relationship but be practical as I tell everyone.