Are You Bad Luck?
I hear people complain all the time that they are where they are because they are facing “BAD LUCK” . Is there really such thing that one is having bad luck ? for a period of time or a long period of their life. Does bad luck follow you like some people claims? A long time girlfriend of mine always joke that if she didn’t have bad luck, she didn’t have any luck at all.
The only reason why she keeps saying this is because bad things happens to her and her life all the time. Her car breaks down , her son wants to commit suicide, she gets into a fight with her hubby and then her ex. After her car is fix, she gets into an accident with the deer on the road. Yes, it’s a never ending story for her , or should I say, it definitely seems to any one who knows her that she is having some kind of bad luck or a dark cloud surrounding her constantly.
But wait a minute , lets dig deeper and look deeper into my friend’s life and her surroundings as well as her circumstances. How does one have so much bad luck you ask ? And yes a deeper look into her life , you will find that although an extremely good person , my old friend makes some of the worst choices in her life and not willing to make any changes and thus continues to lament about it when bad things happen. For example, her car , she used to buy old cars, thus is always having car trouble. When she finally did get a new car, she was driving it so fast even knowing that the area she lives in, is a deer hazard area. So who can she blames if the deer comes running into her car all the time?
My girlfriend is so comfortable with the life she lives in and is not willing to make changes in her way of driving or the way she handles different aspect of her life, that she blames it on bad luck for anything that goes wrong in her life. She doesn’t need to carry a cloud of bad luck with her all the time, all she needs to do is to stop doing what she is doing constantly and make changes and take action/s and take charge of her life and situation. One needs to remove the fear , make some wise decision to make these changes and snap out of this “loser” mentality. Nothing is impossible, unless, you don’t want to change, unless you don’t want to make things better.
When I see young people coming in to hand in their resumes because the court makes this young offender do it as part of their rehabilitation, do they really want to work? They say that the reason that they got into trouble is because they didn’t have a job? Or they have bad luck and gets fired after a few days of work , was it really bad luck? or the attitude of these young people? Anyone who’ve made mistakes in life, can make changes in their life if they want too, they don’t need to continue being losers or had bad luck following them. The ability to step out of their comfort zone and face their fears about getting rejected by people or looked down upon by people , this is the first steps into making the improvement that is so much needed in their currently daunting life.